Motherhood is a full time job but do we ever get sick days? or when illness strikes our lives do we just make do? Do you have a choice to do anything other than just to get on with it? After all there is little that comes close to the pain and suffering of labour and we just got on with that..right?
I recently spoke to a mummy friend that had been in hospital for viral meningitis; she was in agony and very very sick, when in the ambulance they asked her to rate her pain from 1 -10, she set 10 as the pain of labour and so whilst she was suffering tremendously in comparison to that it wasn’t as bad.. as a result she wasn’t seen as quickly and just made do.
This last week as I myself have been under the weather, my husband asked what id do and of course the response was “well Id like to rest but ill just have to make do”!! I probably didn’t HAVE to make do with how I felt, I’m sure if we had called Grandma or a friend I might have had some help and the opportunity for some much needed rest to get better! Why do we do this? I thought as I sat with a kitchen piled up with pots, toys everywhere, Toast crusts under the table, mount wash-more taking over the house and the kids still in their Pjs! Meanwhile I sat wrapped in a blanket feeling sorry for myself I wished so much for a “sick day” , for a little bit of rest, but instead I convinced myself I would just make do, and I did to an extent.
It would be easy to call a friend or relative but I am always conscious that they too have kids to care for or their own busy agenda and “to do” list they’ll be working on and so whilst I consider it I usually just try my best to get on with it, the pots, cleaning and chaos isn’t going anywhere and to be fair I can just tackle all that when I feel better…
So my question is; Do YOU ever compare illness and pain to that of labour and if its not as bad you make do? Do you down play how rubbish you feel because there’s little help on hand let alone sympathy? Do you hesitate to ask for help when your under the weather because you can just make do with a bit of chaos for a few days?
If you answered “Yes” then STOP IT! Yes you are a mother and have A LOT to remember, to do and directions in which to stretch yourself. Yes things don’t ever go as well as when you’re on top form but because you are a mother, you basically run your household. Do you realise that if you were in a business setting your job would be equivalent to Managing director? If you ran a company would you take a sick day and let someone you trusted take the reigns for a day or 2? Then do it for yourself and family too. This week would have been easier and a faster recovery if I had pressed “send” on the text or made the call!
There are few thing that will ever come close to the pains of labour (Iv’e heard kidney stones are up there with the level of pain) but to be fair how rough would life be if more illnesses and viruses brought that level of pain? In the workplace we rarely hesitate when it comes to our health to call and take the day off if were feeling naff, but in our home life and as a mother its not even an option to have the day off..lets start making it so, look after yourself, ask for help without hesitation and get some rest when you need it.. Mothers day is fast approaching so take it as an opportunity for time for you to be a better more relaxed mummy and get some time for you, get some regular you time (if you don’t already) and ask for help when your feeling rough!
What do you like to do to chill out?